Federal Law:


Automatically upon separation

Equal parenting time is the default

This should essentially abolish 'Family Courts'.

State Law and Policy:




Until 'Family Courts' are abolished, the states can do the following:


  • Current Requirement - 7 hour online course and be part of two court cases involving children, as well as be a lawyer (http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/cip/programs/gal/children/gal_standards_children.pdf)
  • A law degree does very little to prepare a person for elements of child psychology, family dynamics, parenting, child abuse, latest research and social concerns, etc..
  • A lawyer mindset is arguably counter-productive in determining family dynamics 
  • Other states have much higher supplemental education requirements

2.  AUDIT AND REVIEW 'FAMILY COURTS' (http://jlarc.virginia.gov/about.asp)

In order to best change policy, we need updated information, including:

  • Custody case outcomes for prior ten years
  • Demographical data of litigants
  • Judicial complaint data
  • Guardian ad litem complaint data
  • Mediation outcomes
  • Types of remedies used and outcomes
  • State expenditure on remedies
  • Average length of custody disputes (in hours)
  • Repeated custody disputes (same children)
  • Source and explanation of funding for courts, Child Support Enforcement, and foster care
  • JDR court expenses
  • Efficacy of GALs (survey)


  • Enhance Mediation efforts to the point nearly all custody disputes are handled through mediation.





  • This is destructive to the child and family

8.  MANDATORY BACKGROUND CHECKS - for ALL adults living with children at the time of a custody dispute


  • 'EP' provides parenting classes and other preventative measures


  • Allow recording devices in courts
  • Report statistics to recording bureau

Change to Probation Policy (Federal and State):


  • In our situation, the probationer and my children's mother were required to marry before cohabitation.  This did not suffice.

  • In our case, the U.S. Attorney's Office interpreted the policy to mean the probationer's privacy was of primary importance.  In fact, public safety is more important, according to their own policy.

  • In our case the probationer had a history of rape, strangulation, abduction, kidnapping, career criminal, burglaries, robberies, arson, serious mental illness, drug abuse, other crimes not known, etc..  This should have forbidden him from being alone around my daughters.

  • Unfortunately there are many instances of men on probation, harming mothers and/or their children.  I have not seen this issue addressed in any of the U.S. Probation and Pretrial Services videos or policy.


  • In our case, I (father) was not contacted by the probation officer.  I found and contacted him once, before filing for custody.  He knew I was concerned about the safety of my children and never once contacted me throughout the entire probation period and even rejected my subpoena for him to testify in 'Family Court'.

Argument for “50/50 PRESUMPTION” - NO COURT

Imagine a world where children can no longer be used as pawns and no longer weaponized in Family Court, which is a mockery of the American legal system.

  • Federal law overrides state laws
  • Currently a parent can take a child without repercussions
  • Parents should determine best interest first and foremost
  • Put fathers back in the home

  • Automatic.  No court required
  • Expand child abuse crimes

    • Alienation (first offense misdemeanor, then increasing)
    • Housing certain felons around children
  • Domestic Violence arguments

    • Increase domestic violence?

      • No.  Tension is less.  Using children as pawns is eliminated

        • Much fighting is over children
      • Yes.  Maybe in some situations, but decrease in others.
      • Yes.  Overall but the benefits of children with access to both parents offsets
  • Family Court industry thriving off the backs of broken families and children - diminished

    • Untrained lawyers are determining custody

      • No pertinent training for judges
      • Little to no pertinent training for guardians
      • Little to no pertinent training for representatives
    • Money can still be funneled through child support collection
    • Cost is astronomical
    • No oversight
    • Lower courts with lesser qualified judges breeds abuse of power

  • Results of fighting over children

    • Parental suicide
    • Child suicide
    • Childhood trauma
    • Lower crime rates when there is access to both parents
    • Better grades when there is access to both parents
    • Higher graduation rates with access to both parents
  • Affects ALL races and demographics
  • When parents can’t or don’t want to have 50/50, then a civil agreement is made between parents
  • Child support is still applicable 

    • Automated formula based on parenting time and income

The Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment protects fundamental parental rights. a. Due Process protects the right of parents to make decisions regarding the care, custody, and control of their children. b. Due Process protects the right of parents to direct the upbringing and education of their children. c. Due Process protects the right of parents to make medical decisions on behalf of their children. d. Due Process, coupled with the First Amendment, protects the right of parents to guide the religious training and education of their children. II As a general matter, Courts apply strict scrutiny to review state statutes that infringe upon fundamental parental rights

The Thirteenth Amend establishes parenting as a fundamental right (e.g., Runyon v. McCrary) and has been ruled by judges in all of the highest courts (e.g., Meyers v. Nebraska; Wisconsin v. Yoder; & Santosky v. Kramer).  

The fourth of our Ten Commandments, established by our creator, in the sacred scriptures states - “HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER.”

 IN VIRGINIA Family Courts:

(GALs only need to complete a 7 hour online course)

GALs must follow Specific Standards,  and a  Professional Code of Conduct, but NO ACCOUNTABILITY, when they don't.

JUDGES must follow the Best Interest of the Child LAW, Judge's Bench Book, and Judicial Canons, but NO ACCOUNTABILITY, when they don't.

Complaints about Anjelica's GAL , CHARLES JOHNSON went NOWHERE, neither during trial nor after.
  (Charles Johnson continued as a GAL for 5 more years)


In Virginia Adoption Courts:

Step Parents could adopt without a background check prior to July 2018, when HB 227 was passed.
(It is set to expire in 2020)

NO Home Study or Investigation of any kind is required to adopt a step child, despite the high percentage of child abuse & homicide being committed by mom's boyfriend/husband.



After several formal complaints were made,
Judge Joe Massey was demoted from Chief Judge
NOW - Joe Massey has resigned!!

Mr. Massey's response to the letter (below) that I sent to his home was to call the police.    

Dear Judge Joseph P. Massey,

You sentenced a beautiful daughter, and awesome big sister to years of abuse and finally, murder.

Her name is Anjelica Marie Hoffer.  REMEMBER THAT.

In June 2010, after discovering the criminal past of the boyfriend of my children’s mother, I filed for full custody of my 3 daughters - aged 7, 9, & 13...

On February 17, 2010, 31 year old Wesley Hadsell got out of Victorville Federal Penitentiary.  He had spent about 10 years as an adult behind bars, in and out of prison.  He had just been released for bank robbery, which he committed while on the run from the police after violently raping and kidnapping his wife who he had been holding captive for 2 weeks.  According to 2005 court documents surrounding the grand jury indictment, Mr. Hadsell got angry at his wife and beat her, strangled her, and raped her.  There was a nationwide manhunt for Mr. Hadsell and his victim, with a $50,000 reward, labeling  him ‘armed and very dangerous’.  He was finally caught in Illinois, in a high-speed pursuit by multiple law enforcement agencies, after wrecking the vehicle, and hiding in a field all night.  This was public knowledge and I made this known to you during my custody dispute in 2010.

I also told you about his other crimes - Felony Restraint, Burglary, Forgery, Larceny and dozens of violations in prison.  He had a son and he made very little effort in being a father to him or providing for him.  But despite all this, you felt he was the better dad than the one Anjelica knew since she was a baby.  The one who taught her everything that she knew and who knew everything about her.  The one who loved her and would do everything for her.

On April 9, 2010, Mr. Hadsell met my children’s mother

About April 20, 2010 Mr. Hadsell began living with my children’s mother, and my three daughters.  I had equal shared parenting time for over 6 years, as previously ordered by Norfolk JDR, when you made your ruling to remove me from my oldest daughter’s life.  I was a good dad, despite Anjelica being alienated away from me for several months before the trial started.  There were many signs that something wasn’t right.  You paid no attention.  I hadn’t heard of Parental Alienation at that time, but since you were a family court judge, I now know you were familiar with the dynamic.  The signs were clear.  All you had to do was follow the Best Interest statute provided to you.  But you took the law into your own hands.

On May 12, 2010, my children’s mother and Wesley Hadsell got married.

On May 20, 2010, Mr. and Mrs. Hadsell and Anjelica went for several days on a honeymoon, to the mountains of Tennessee to visit his family.  I asked the mother not to do that.  I told her it was too soon for Anjelica and I was worried sick about Anjelica, being estranged from her father, and blooming into a beautiful young lady with a strange, and overly charming man, right out of prison, having full liberty with my child.  You knew all of this..

All of this was made known to you and the ‘guardian’ you appointed, during court, along with Mr. Hadsell’s extensive criminal record which also included Felony Restraint, Burglary, Larceny, Fraud, and dozens of serious prison violations.  

I was scrutinized by your appointed ‘guardian’, Mr. Charles A. Johnson.  I will admit I was anxious and stressed - worried about the safety of my girls.  I’m not sure who wouldn’t be.  But I kept my cool, trying not to make things worse.  I did not seek out Mr. Hadsell to confront him or start any unnecessary drama.  I wanted peace - for myself and for my children.  But you and your ‘guardian’ chose the wrong side, in the face of clear evidence.

Mr. Johnson didn’t contact any of the victims of Mr. Hadsell, or family members, or friends, or the probation officer, or do an in-depth background check, which I had done.  In his report, Mr. Johnson downplayed Mr. Hadsell’s criminal record and lied about very important facts.  He reported that Mr. Hadsell’s “girlfriends seem to get into hard situations” and even reported that Mr. Hadsell’s wife was charged with the bank robbery in 2005, as well as Mr. Hadsell.  This is a complete fabrication, gathered only from a conversation with Mr. Hadsell himself..  I complained to you about Johnson’s lack of action and incompetence, both during the trial and after.  You did NOTHING.  Mr. Johnson continued as a GAL for 5 more years.  

Had you have required that Mr. Johnson do his job, and spoken to the probation officer, we would have learned that Mr. Hadsell had several assaults in prison, including attempted murder by stabbing a man multiple times in the face.  Mr. Johnson would have known about Mr. Hadsell’s gang affiliations, drug abuse history, and being on lock down for the last two years of his prison stay.  I subpoenaed the federal probation officer, Tomas Ramirez.  That was squashed, but Mr. Johnson should have called or visited the probation officer, as I had done.

Mr. Johnson ridiculed me excessively in his report, carrying on for an entire paragraph in his report, about a job that I was fired from 7 years prior, without asking me about it.  No crime was committed.  It was not worth reporting.  My record is clean except for non-criminal traffic violations and a misdemeanor from age 20.    He referred to me, the protective and concerned father, as “antagonistic” and “self-righteous”.  He ridiculed my reaction when Mr. and Mrs. Hadsell both approached me and grabbed my 7 year old daughter while I hugged her good-bye.  Persistent ridicule was pressed upon me, though NOTHING was presented which as concern for the well-being of the children. Why couldn’t you at least admonish Mr. Johnson’s bias?  Why would you continue to use this GAL?  As a judge, you should have seen the precarious situation my girls were in.

There were many other real concerns that I raised in the court which were ignored.  For instance, Mr. Hadsell’s 18 year old nephew moved into the home just a couple months after Mr. Hadsell did.  Alienators tend to make the child their ‘best buddy’ and convince them that the other parent is bad.  Anjelica was getting the ‘golden child’ treatment and allowed to do whatever she wanted.  She was told that I didn’t want her.  The mother was not communicating with me about Anjelica.  Anjelica had stopped talking to me, my family, my friends, and even friends of hers that she usually only saw when with me.  The things the mother was doing was detrimental to the BEST INTEREST of the children, yet nothing I was doing went against their best interest, as defined by law.  

You ordered 50/50 parenting time remain the same with my younger two girls, but you changed my 50/50 with Anjelica to ZERO.  You didn’t opt for weekends or every other weekend.  You went above and beyond and went straight for ZERO.  In the face of reason.  In the face of decency.  In the face of the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN.

In 2012, just over a year after the custody trial, Mr. Hadsell adopted Anjelica, without my knowing, because I was erased.  I was in fact the only father Anjelica had known, as acknowledged by you and your guardian, all of our family and friends, and the schools and doctors, etc.  Her name was Anjelica Hoffer until she was unjustly adopted by Hadsell just before her 16th birthday.  Needless to say, the adoption put an even further divide between Anjelica and I.

In March of 2015, she died fatherless.  The father figure that you endorsed, with your ignorance of what a child needs, had turned against her and took her life - because he was not a father.  He did not love Anjelica as a father - as I did.  

In 2016, Mr. Hadsell was deemed a Career Armed Criminal, by a federal court judge, having the same record he had when he was in your court room, except for the 2016 federal conviction for Possession of Ammunition.  You can review the 60-page sentencing report to see how THAT judge recognized the danger this man posed and sentenced him 20 years in prison.  The prosecutor only asked for 15.
Mr. Hadsell is now finally being tried for the 2005 rape, assault, and kidnapping, which he had been indicted by a grand jury for, in 2005.  If your appointed ‘guardian’ can use here say to report a job that the REAL father was fired from 7 years prior, then surely he could consider a grand jury indictment for something as serious as rape, assault, & kidnapping, to err on the side of safety for the children??  But regardless of the GAL report, YOU were told about the strangulation, beating, raping, and kidnapping, because I had spoken with the victim and read the court documents.  You did NOTHING.

After Ohio, Virginia will prosecute him for what he did to Anjelica.  The truth of Anjelica’s story will be made known to all.  

I understand that you were only a construction law attorney when your good friend nominated you to be a judge and that there was no requirement to have any significant education in things like Child Abuse, Psychology, Family Dynamics, Childhood Development, Social Work, Parental Alienation, etc, but have you at least read Virginia statute “§ 20-124.3. Best interests of the child; visitation.” - at any time during your career?  I hope not, because then you would be held culpable for your lawless decisions.  That might have been an excuse for violating EVERY item in the Best Interest statute... 
  1. MENTAL CONDITION OF THE CHILD. - Anjelica was referring to this man as ‘dad’ on social media within months of meeting him.  She had stopped responding to me or talking to my family and friends.  She was clearly being ‘brain washed’.

  1. MENTAL CONDITION OF THE PARENTS. - Anjelica’s mother was alienated from her mother at age 12, who died just two months before Anjelica was alienated from me.  This childhood trauma created a mental condition.

  1. PARENT'S ABILITY TO MEET CHILD'S NEEDS. - I had been an active father for over 13 years and had already been granted 50/50 custody by courts, 5 years prior.

  1. CHILD'S TIME W/ SIBLINGS, EXTENDED FAMILY & PEERS. - Anjelica permanently lost half of her time with her sister whom she grew up with and was very close to.  Anjelica also lost complete contact with friends and family on my side.

  1. FUTURE ROLE OF THE PARENT. - By terminating my parenting time, you aided and abetted in erasing me and leaving Anjelica without a father.

  1. PARENT SUPPORTING CHILD'S CONTACT WITH OTHER PARENT. - The mother had CLEARLY alienated Anjelica not only from me, but from her biological father when she was a baby.  I was always willing to share parenting duties with their mother, and would have even welcomed the biological father, had I known he wanted to see Anjelica.

  1. PARENT'S DESIRE TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP W/CHILD & RESOLVE DISPUTES. - By virtue of filing custody, not to mention repeatedly reaching out to Anjelica, my desire to have a relationship was clear.  I attempted to resolve disputes, but their mother absolutely antagonized the situation to make it worse.

  1. REASONABLE PREFERENCE OF THE CHILD. - This is the only factor you considered and yet Anjelica’s preference WAS NOT reasonable.

  1. HISTORY OF FAMILY ABUSE. - Mr. Hadsell had been convicted of at least 3 crimes in and out of prison, that qualify as “Family Abuse”, and a grand jury found a true bill for rape, two counts of felony assault, and kidnapping.  


Judicial Canon 2 - “A judge SHALL respect and comply with the law.  No impropriety.” 
The Best Interest statute is LAW Mr. Massey.  

Judicial Canon 3B(5) - “A judge SHALL perform judicial duties without bias or prejudice.”. Why else did you ignore the law to change my custody from 50/50 to ZERO of Anjelica, while maintaining 50/50 with my other two girls?  Bias against a father and for a criminal.

Judicial Canon 3B(8) - “Dispose court business promptly.” 
You delayed the safety of my daughters by not showing up to court at the first hearing and then finally hearing the substance of my concerns 4 months after my filing.  How about when you crammed us into the end of your busy day, only to cut us off so you could go home to YOUR kids, and then pick up two months later?  By that time all of my concerns seemed like faded memories to you.

Judicial Canon 3D(2) - “Take appropriate action when lawyer (GAL) violates
 “Professional Code..”.
You failed to respond in ANY WAY to an incompetent, unprofessional guardian ad litem, despite his LIES and bias and incompetence.  The ‘guardian’ was in err so many times, that it’s hard to imagine it wasn’t purposeful.  Mr. Johnson made no request to the court for a Psych. Eval., or parenting classes for the new man just out of prison, or an emergency removal based on two very questionable men that the mother hardly knew, living in a small house with my three daughters.  Mr. Johnson downplayed Wesley Hadsell’s criminal history significantly.  In his report he gloated about how great Hadsell was doing, stating “he had self-control”, “a lively awareness of the consequences”, was “confident he will behave appropriately”, called his crimes “youthful indiscretions”, “desires to make good of his marriage”, and “willing to get on the straight and narrow”.  Does that sound like a quality investigation, especially considering the facts that were immediately available, not to mention all that I told him?  

Judge’s Bench Book.  Chapter 2 II-A. pg 392 - “Court SHALL assure frequent and continuing contact with BOTH both parents, when appropriate, and encourage parents to share in the responsibilities of rearing their children. Va. Code § 20-124.2.” 
Did you do that when you violated the law by taking away ALL of my time with my 13 year old daughter?  You said, “by virtue of her age”, and you eliminated her father, with the swipe of your mighty pen.  How much weight should “her age” play into it, if even her own mother was clearly duped by a con man right out of prison, to the point of blatantly putting our daughters in harm’s way?  What about Jennifer’s own alienation from HER mother and the obvious signs of alienation with Anjelica - complete rejection of a normal range and loving parent?  Your job was to provide a VERY IMPORTANT service to families that relied on your expertise.  What, if any, devotion did you have, to the study of human psychology, child abuse, and other family dynamics?

Judge’s Bench Book.  Chapter 2 V. pg 396 - “Available Tools”, gives you SEVEN tools to use to remedy the custodial disputes.  You chose an inept guardian, with 7 hours of training and no children of his own, a clear bumbling idiot, and to send us to “Family Counseling”.  How does family counseling address the safety of my children?  Why did you ignore the signs of a sociopath preying on my children?

Judge’s Bench Book.  Chapter 2 VI-A(1) pg 399 - “Investigative Reports”, REQUIRES you have due diligence in getting the factual information in such a case as this one.  

Judges’s Bench Book.  Chapter 2 VI-B(10) pg 401 - “an older child’s preference should “be given weight… but is not conclusive.”  Hall v. Hall, 210 Va. 668 (1970); Va. Code § 20-124.3. 
Why did you IGNORE EVERY ASPECT OF THE BEST INTEREST STATUTE, EXCEPT THE CHILD’S PREFERENCE?  This clearly states that the child’s weight is NOT ENOUGH by itself.  What else then were you basing your decision to ignore the remaining items of the Best Interest Statute, such as “mental condition of the parent”, “mental condition of the child”, “relationship between parent and child”, “relationship of child to siblings and extended family”, “parent’s willingness to support the child’s contact with the other parent and unreasonable denial”, “parent’s willingness to resolve disputes”, and MOST GLARING - “THE HISTORY OF FAMILY ABUSE”????

Judge’s Bench Book.  Chapter 2 VI-C(3) pg 402 - “Would ‘actual harm’ occur if visitation were to cease?” - Surles v. Mayer, 48 Va. App. 146 (2006).  O’Rourke v. Vutoro, 49 Va. App. 139 (2006).  What do you think now?  Would ‘actual harm’ occur as a result of letting a sexually violent career criminal, just out of maximum security prison, and his 18 year-old nephew, both of whom the mother had just met, live with 3 young girls, including one who was turning into a beautiful young lady and was estranged from her father?

Judge’s Bench Book.  Chapter 2 VI-D. pg 403 - “Court MUST assure frequent and continuing contact with BOTH parents, unless the best interest of the child dictates otherwise”. 
Did the best interest of MY child dictate otherwise to you?


"Woe to those who make unjust laws, and deny justice and rights to the poor and the FATHERLESS and the widow... disaster comes." - Isaiah 10:1-3

"Cursed is anyone withholding justice from the FATHERLESS or the foreigner or the widow." - Deuteronomy 27:19

"I, Jehovah, will strike my hands together at those who mistreat the foreigner, the FATHERLESS, and the widow." - Ezekiel 22:7-13

"I Jehovah, will put those on trial, who oppress and deprive justice to the widows, the FATHERLESS, and foreigners." - Malachi 3:5
"Defend the weak, the FATHERLESS... and oppressed." - Psalms 82:3

“If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” - Matthew 18:6

"Pure religion is to look after the FATHERLESS and the widow in their affliction, and separate from the world." - James 1:27

"If you deal justly and do not oppress the foreigner, the FATHERLESS, or the widow, then I, Jehovah, will let you live in the land I gave your ancestors - forever." - Jeremiah 7:5-7

"Jehovah watches over and sustains the foreigner, the FATHERLESS, and the widow." - Psalms 146:9

"Seek justice; Defend the oppressed; Defend the FATHERLESS." - Isaiah 1:17


FAMILY COURT JUDGE, JOSEPH P. MASSEY who gave Anjelica to a career violent criminal, and took her from her dad, operated FAR outside the STATUTES,  the CANONS, and the BENCH BOOK which govern him.


Judge JOSEPH MASSEY was the custody judge in 2010 when Anjelica's father tried to get her out of the home with the  career criminal who knew the mother for TWO WEEKS, when he moved in.

Judge Joe Massey (#RESIGNJudgeJoeMassey) failed to follow the law and protect my daughter:

- He overlooked EVERY PROVISION of Virginia's Best Interest code
(see 12.28.17 complaint below)

- He failed to respond to valid complaints about the GAL, Charles Johnson

According to Virginia's Judicial Canons (Can.3-D.2), the presiding judge HAS AN OBLIGATION to take "appropriate action when a lawyer (a GAL is a lawyer) violates the Professional Code."

- He failed to consider what was BEST for Anjelica and her sisters

5.4.17 - detailed complaint to chief judge re: g.a.l. charles johnson

     12.9.17 - bar complaint - re: gal c. johnson

12.27.17 - Response fr. bar re: c. johnson complaint

12.28.17 - 2nd JIRC complaint re: judge massey

10.26.17 - Response fr Judicial commission re: massey complaint

consider this:

82.2% of 'custodial parents' are the mothers
1 in every 3.4 children live with a 'custodial parent'

About 1700 children  are murdered  in the US each year.    
Over *50%  are killed by the mother and/or her partner (non-father).

"Preschoolers living with one natural and one stepparent were 40 TIMES MORE LIKELY to become CHILD ABUSE cases..." http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0162309585900123
1580 avg. no. per year - 2.13 per 100,000
Father - 15%
Mother - 28%
Mother and Non-Parent - 11%
Mother and Father - 22% (often actually step-father)
Mother's Male Partner - 3% (under reported)
Non-Parent (other than Mother's Male Partner) - 13%

Children Living in Home with UNRELATED ADULT - 50 times more likely to be a  HOMICIDE VICTIM

- 1,850,000 children living in VA (22% of the population)
- 1,000,000 households have children under 18
- 9578 Founded Child Abuse Cases in Virginia in 2017 (1 in every 208 children)
- 668 Founded Child Abuse Cases in NORFOLK, VA in 2017 (1 in every 91 children)

96% of 'Custodial Parents' in Virginia are the Mothers (2000)

Almost 5000 Custody Cases in Norfolk, VA (pop 242,000) - 2017

Virginia CHILD HOMICIDES (2014-2016 - DSS)
63 avg. per year- 2.5 per 100,000
43.3% by the MOTHER
29.8% by the FATHER

Virginia CHILD HOMICIDES (2014 - Medical Examiner)
38% of child homicides committed by the PARENT'S LIVE-IN PARTNER

*52% calculated by adding "Mother (28%)", "Mother & Non-Parent (11%)", "Mother & Father" (10% - step-fathers are often erroneously reported as "Father"), Mother's Male Partner (3%),  
Science Direct. "Methodological Challenges in Measuring Child Maltreatment". (2010).        http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0145213409002610?via%3Dihub


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EDUCATE   Guardian ad Litems

TRANSPARENCY   in Family Courts - Record all Proceedings

ACCOUNTABILITY   For Officials Failing to Obey the Law - Public Hearings, Grievance Process


EARLY PREVENTION   Needs More Funding  (and LESS to Foster Care and Adoption)

PARENTING CLASSES   to ALL Guardians involved w/Custody Disputes


         - Allow for INFORMATION (internet access, law library, visible bulletin boards, media streaming pertinent information, etc)
         - Production-oriented SEATING (comfortable seating, table tops, privacy)
         - Paid or volunteer STAFF walking around offering information about the court process
         - Solution-oriented COURT ROOM DESIGN (round table, not formatted as criminal courts)
         - Security Guards and Bailiffs dressed in CITIZENS ATTIRE and educated on Family Issues
if I have raised my hand against the fatherless, knowing that I had influence in court, then let my arm fall from the shoulder, let it be broken off at the joint.  - Job 31:21


  • Best Interest Code - https://law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/title20/chapter6.1/section20-124.3/
  • Judicial Canons
  • Judge's Benchbook
  • GAL Standards - http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/cip/programs/gal/children/gal_performance_standards_children.pdf
  • GAL Qualifications - http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/cip/programs/gal/children/faq_children.pdf  or  http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/cip/programs/gal/children/gal_standards_children.pdf
  • GAL Continuing Educations - https://eapps.courts.state.va.us/GalRegistry/public/publicHome.html#/reports/gallist?programType=C
  • BAR Professional Code of Conduct - http://www.vsb.org/pro-guidelines/index.php/main/print_view
  • DSS 2015 Annual Report - https://www.dss.virginia.gov/files/about/reports/agency_wide/annual_statistical/pdf_versions/2015.pdf
  • Virginia Caseload Statistics - http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/judpln/csi/stats/jdr/ei01_2017_monthly.pdf
  • 2017 CPS  Referrals - http://www.dss.virginia.gov/files/about/reports/children/cps/all_other/2017/Abuse_and_Neglect_by_Locality_SFY2017_mod1.pdf
  • Adoption Barrier Crimes - http://www.dss.virginia.gov/files/division/licensing/lcpa/intro_page/background_investigations/lcpa_employees/guidance_procedures/barrier_crimes_cpa.pdf
  • 2016 Judiciary Report - http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/judpln/csi/sjr/2016/state_of_the_judiciary_report.pdf
  • 2014 Judicial Council Report - http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/judpolicies/2014_jcv_report.pdf
  • BAR CLE seminars on Family Law - https://www.vacle.org/SeminarResults.aspx?keywords=family
  • Public AuditorReports - http://www.apa.virginia.gov/APA_Reports/Reports.aspx

  • "Changing Children Population" - 2010 - Annie E. Casey - http://www.aecf.org/m/resourcedoc/AECF-ChangingChildPopulation-2011-Full.pdf
  • Does Shared Physical Custody Benefit Children? - 2015 - Linda Nielsen - http://aaml.org/sites/default/files/MAT111_1.pdf
  • Achieve Shared Parenting - 2016 - Mark Weiner - https://illinoislawreview.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Weiner.pdf
  • Forgiveness: Reducing Hostility after Divorce - 2008 - Solangel  Maldonado - https://illinoislawreview.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Weiner.pdf
  • Argument against shared parenting and FOR judicial discretion - 2014 - Margaret Brinig - https://scholarship.law.nd.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2123&context=law_faculty_scholarship
  • Is Bird Nesting in the Best Interest of Children - 2004 - Michael Flannery - http://scholar.smu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2083&context=smulr 
  • Courts and conflict resolution report - 1994 -State Justice Institute - https://ncsc.contentdm.oclc.org/digital/api/collection/adr/id/1/download
  • Examining child support - two models of distributive justice - 1998 - CA Law Review - Marsha Garrison - https://scholarship.law.berkeley.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1596&context=californialawreview
  • Shared parenting - Joint Parenting Association - https://www.fatherhood.org.au/resources/back-to-the-best-interests-of-the-child.pdf
  • Judicial Discretion in Divorce Cases - 1996 - Marsha Garrison - NC Law Review - http://scholarship.law.unc.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3648&context=nclr
  • "Family Law and the Romance of Economics" - 1995 - Ann Estin - W & M Law Review - http://scholarship.law.wm.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1761&context=wmlr
  • "Child Support Policy: Guidelines and Goals" - 1999 - Marsha Garrison - Brooklyn Law School - https://brooklynworks.brooklaw.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=https://www.google.com/&httpsredir=1&article=1202&context=faculty
  • "Comments on the Miller Commission Report" - 2007 - Leonard Edwards - Pace Law Review - http://digitalcommons.pace.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1137&context=plr
  • "Law, State, and the Family; Politics of Child Custody" - 1985 - Julia Brophy PhD thesis - U of Sheffield - http://etheses.whiterose.ac.uk/1795/1/DX185403.pdf 
  • "Doomed? Toward A Model of Best Practices" GAL Seminar 2015 - Birnbaum and Bala - Family Court Review - http://www.cookcountycourt.org/Portals/0/Domestic%20Relations%20Division/Seminar%20Materials/Materials%20Part%201.pdf
  • Conflict Analysis and Intervention Selection for the Parenting Coordinator - 2016 - Nicole Garton - https://www.mediate.com/mediator/attachments/33829/00323594.pdf
  • Journal of Child Custody  2004-2017 - http://www.tandfonline.com/loi/wjcc20?open=1&year=2004&repitition=0#vol_1_2004

Article - "Why Kids Need Dads" - https://dnatesting.com/why-kids-need-dads/
Article - "Kids Need Dads" - https://www.huffingtonpost.com/monique-honaman/kids-need-dads_b_2785267.html
Statistics - Fatherhood.org - https://www.fatherhood.org/fatherhood-data-statistics 

  • Apply for Virginia Boards - https://commonwealth.virginia.gov/va-government/gubernatorial-appointments/
  • List of VA Boards - https://commonwealth.virginia.gov/media/2415/alphbetical-board-listing-2-5-14.pdf
  • CWLA - https://www.cwla.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/VIRGINIA.pdf
  • Coalition 4 Protection - http://www.coalition4protection.com/federal-supreme-court--pro-se-.html


(these are old and I am no longer pursuing these)

APA to Recognize Parental Alienation - Pathogenic Parenting -


CHANGE ADOPTION LAWS - sign the petition

to do


Charles Johnson.  Attorney Guardian ad Litem - He reported lies as the truth to a judge.  That is perjury.  That put kids in danger.

Joseph P. Massey.  Custody Judge - He  clearly bypassed statutes, Judicial Canons, & theJudicial Benchbook, in order to place Anjelica with a sexually violent career criminal.  

Tomas Ramirez - Federal Probation Officer - He ignored the danger and refused to help when asked.

Jennifer and Wesley Hadsell - Anjelica's adoption needs to be revoked.  Plain and simple.  They were both reckless with Anjelica's life and well-being.

HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE - Contact me with ideas


Learn about EMOTIONAL ABUSE of children (SpeakW,  Saving Fatherhood,  Craig Childress)
Learn about FAMILY LAW REFORM (JAM,  The Father's Rights Movement,  Million Parent March)
Join MOVEMENTS FOR CHANGE (Mommy Interrupted,  Restoring Families, Dr. Sue)
Tell people about Parental Alienation, which is Emotional Child Abuse.  Look for it in your life.
Tell people about our unconstitutional Family Courts.  
Tell people how important fathers are.

Reaching Out

3.12.18 - Letter to Newspaper Editor Jeff Reese (misaddressed)

3.12.17 - Letter to Delegate Stolle

3.12.18 - Letter to Early Prevention Social Worker Ben Watterton
(Fatherhood Program Director)

 12.30.17 - Letter to Hearsay with Cathy Lewis NPR Radio Show


Virginia Senator Lynwood Lewis  (district06@senate.virginia.gov) and Delagate Christopher Stolle  (DelCStolle@house.virginia.gov),

My name is Zach Hoffer.  I have been a citizen of Norfolk, VA for over 15 years.  I work in the East Beach area and own my home in the Bayview area.  My children have been raised here and my 18 year old daughter was murdered here.  Can you take a minute to listen to me?
My first daughter, Anjelica Hoffer (aka AJ Hadsell), was murdered by her step father in Norfolk, in 2015.  I lost custody of her just after he moved into her mother's home in 2010.  The state family courts could have helped, but instead they hurt the situation.  

Family courts affect vast numbers of families and children of Virginia from all walks of life and demographics.  With the influence that these courts have on society, we should be making sure they are operated to the best of our ability.  I urge you to spend a day at one of the JDR courts here in Hampton Roads.  They are adversarial, spirit squashing, and are not designed for solutions.  From the overpriced lawyers to the underpaid and undereducated guardian ad litems, judges, and other court officials, family courts are designed to create more turmoil between parents and create angst in the lives of children.  We can change this.

I went to family court in 2010, after Wesley Hadsell moved into my childrens' mother's home, in an effort to protect my children, especially my oldest daughter, then 13, who took a strong liking to the man and who had recently stopped living with me or communicating with me - stemming from tension that had erupted between her mother and I.  This man had only been out of maximum security prison for 6 weeks when he met their mother.  He moved into the home two weeks later.  He had a very extensive criminal history, and was not an active father in his own son's life, yet the family courts determined he was safe to have full liberty with my daughters.  I still had 50% custody of all three girls at the time.  After the custody hearing with family court, I had ZERO custody of Anjelica - but still 50/50 of my other two daughters, age 7 & 9.  This decision was made ENTIRELY on 'her desires', and disregarded my concerns for her safety and well-being.

Family court officials are not trained in family issues, in psychology, or other social issues.  They are not required to stay educated.  The requirement for a guardian ad litem is only to be a lawyer and to take a 7 hour class online.  This is UNACCEPTABLE.  Children are being placed into dangerous situations because of ignorance.
To add to the state's errors, they allowed this man to adopt my daughter two years after he met her.  I was not on the birth certificate of my daughter because I met her mother over a year after my daughter was born.  I became her father, as her biological father was not in her life at all.  The family court acknowledged my role in her life and ordered 50% custody after my separation with her mother when she was 8.  I maintained that for 5 years, until her mother persuaded her to live with her and then allowed Wesley Hadsell to adopt her.

How could the state look past such an extensive criminal history, full of violence, unlawful restraint, burglary, stabbing, assaults, 9 years of prison, drug use, drug selling, robbery, suicide and death ideation, running from police and the list goes on.  A grand jury found a true bill on a rape, assault, and kidnapping charge in 2005.  He has tattoos on his eyelid that say "Game Over".  That means the game is over when they lay him down in his coffin.  Why couldn't the state see that he wasn't fit to be in my daughters' lives?

I have a handful of ideas that could be implemented fairly easily, without a partisan effect, and be healthy for EVERYONE involved, especially the children.
Here are my suggestions which I hope you can align with and move forward.  For more details go to www.AnjelicaMarie.com/change :
- Set up an ADVISORY COUNCIL to EDUCATE family court judges and guardian ad litems and other government agencies that are in contact or influencing children and families.  This council can be composed of volunteer professionals.

- Set up a REGULATORY BOARD, similarly structured as the Advisory Council.  Duties to include MANDATING EDUCATION, handling CITIZEN GRIEVANCES, enforcing ACCOUNTABILITY of government officials, and FAMILY COURT TRANSPARENCY.

- The FAMILY LAW CODE of Virginia, specifically the "BEST INTEREST" list for consideration of custody, should include 'THE PEOPLE THAT A PARENT BRINGS AROUND THE CHILD'.  There should be a list of qualities to consider, including - the length of time the parent has known the person, other 'similar' people brought around the children, character of the person, the way of meeting the person, amount of time that person is around the children, etc...

- ALL STEP-PARENTS seeking adoption must have a BACKGROUND CHECK done (currently almost NONE do).  ALSO HOME STUDIES, which examine the family dynamics, MUST be done.  
- THE EARLY PREVENTION DEPARTMENT NEEDS MORE FUNDING and the programs need to be ADVERTISED, both to citizens and to government employees, including judges, GALs, Social Workers, CPS workers, court officials, etc..

- BACKGROUND CHECKS, EVALUATIONS, and PARENTING CLASSES for ALL PEOPLE LIVING WITH CHILDREN OTHER THAN BIOLOGICAL PARENTS - when family, friends, or entities that are concerned for the child's well-being REQUEST this.  Also could be required when using government services such as Family Court, Child Protection, social services, domestic police interactions, etc.  Home studies may be requested also.

- ALL STEP-PARENTS MUST GO TO ONGOING PARENTING CLASSES, which will present topics specific to step-parent issues.

- HIGH SCHOOL and COLLEGE PARENTING CLASSES required for graduation.

         - Allow for INFORMATION (internet access, law library, visible bulletin boards, media streaming pertinent information, etc)
         - Production-oriented SEATING (comfortable seating, table tops, privacy)
         - Paid or volunteer STAFF walking around offering information about the court process
         - Solution-oriented COURT ROOM DESIGN (round table, not formatted as criminal courts)
         - Security Guards and Bailiffs dressed in citizen attire and educated on Family Issues

Ideally, I would like to completely rethink family courts and call them FAMILY SOLUTION CENTERS, and do away with family law and the judges and the lawyers, and use panels composed of volunteers and social workers and psychologists who sit at a ROUND table to discuss what is best for the children.  But until that happens, these minor adjustments could save the well-being and the very lives of children throughout the state of Virginia.
Thank you for your time.  I would greatly appreciate a meeting with you, as you are my representative.


Zachariah Hoffer

SECOND LETTER (1st letter longer, sent 7.19.17)


Dear Governor McAuliffe,

I follow local, state, and federal issues to some degree and there is nothing that strikes me to be as important as children being abused and murdered.  
Specifically - a demographic that is of epidemic concern, is that of the PEOPLE THAT A PARENT BRINGS AROUND THEIR CHILDREN.  This is largely single mothers bringing romantic interests and others of a criminal element around their children.

There are some relatively SIMPLE SOLUTIONS that can be done to lessen this travesty of humanity.  Will you help?
My daughter, Anjelica Hoffer (aka AJ Hadsell), was abused and then murdered.  I tried everything I could to protect her.  The system went against me at every turn.
The system can be adjusted to dissuade abuse and even murder from happening.
- Set up an ADVISORY COUNCIL to EDUCATE government agencies that are in contact or influencing children and families.  This council can be composed of volunteer professionals.
- Set up a REGULATORY BOARD, similarly structured as the Advisory Council.  Duties to include MANDATING EDUCATION, handling CITIZEN GRIEVANCES, enforcing ACCOUNTABILITY of government officials, and FAMILY COURT TRANSPARENCY.
- EARLY PREVENTION NEEDS MORE FUNDING and the programs need to be ADVERTISED, both to citizens and to government employees, including judges, GALs, Social Workers, CPS workers, court officials, etc..

- Mandatory BACKGROUND CHECKS, EVALUATIONS, and PARENTING CLASSES for ALL PEOPLE LIVING WITH CHILDREN OTHER THAN BIOLOGICAL PARENTS, when family, friends, or agencies that are concerned for the children REQUEST this.  Also required when using government services such as Family Court, Child Protection, Welfare, domestic police interactions, etc.  Home studies may be requested also.
- ALL STEP-PARENTS MUST GO TO ONGOING PARENTING CLASSES, some specific to step parent issues.
     - Allow for INFORMATION (internet access, law library, visible bulletin boards, media streaming pertinent information, etc)
     - Production-oriented SEATING
     - Paid or volunteer STAFF walking around offering information about the court process
     - Solution-oriented COURT ROOM DESIGN
     - Security Guards and Bailiffs dressed in citizen attire and educated on Family Issues
- The FAMILY LAW CODE of Virginia, specifically the "Best Interest" list for consideration of custody, should include 'THE PEOPLE THAT A PARENT BRINGS AROUND THE CHILD'.  There should be a list of qualities to consider, including - the length of time the parent has known the person, other 'similar' people brought around the children, character of the person, the way of meeting the person, amount of time that person is around the children, etc...

- ALL STEP-PARENTS seeking adoption must have a BACKGROUND CHECK done (currently almost NONE do).  ALSO HOME STUDIES, which examine the family dynamics, MUST be done.  

Please strongly consider these ideas and take every step you can in implementing them or similar ideas.  Please make yourself and others aware of this area of abuse.

Very sincerely,

Zachariah Hoffer

Isaiah 1:17 
"Learn to do good, seek justice,
Correct the oppressor,
Defend the rights of the fatherless child,
And plead the cause of the widow."

James 1:27
"Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world."

Deuteronomy 27:19
“Cursed is anyone who withholds justice from the foreigner, the fatherless or the widow.”

Psalms 82:3
"Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed."

Jeremiah 5:28
"Their evil deeds have no limit;
    they do not seek justice.
They do not promote the case of the fatherless;
    they do not defend the just cause of the poor."

Psalms 127:3
"Children are a gift from the Lord;
a productive womb, the Lord’s reward." 

Isaiah 1:17 
"Learn to do good, seek justice,
Correct the oppressor,
Defend the rights of the fatherless child,
And plead the cause of the widow."
James 1:27
"Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world."
Deuteronomy 27:19
“Cursed is anyone who withholds justice from the foreigner, the fatherless or the widow.”
Psalms 82:3
"Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed."
Jeremiah 5:28
"Their evil deeds have no limit;
    they do not seek justice.
They do not promote the case of the fatherless;
    they do not defend the just cause of the poor."